Arguments can be inevitable in many life situations. The different kinds of reasoning could bring conflicts and even fights. There are ways in which arguments can actually be used to improve a relationship or really understand the thought process of the other person.
The first reaction anyone has while participating in an argument is to express each other’s opinion back and forth. The big mistake everyone allows is that people are not willing to listen to the other party and just focus on backing up their arguments. There is a much better way to resolve this psychological issue. Studies at the University of Colorado, led by Philip Fernbach, find a simple way of approaching debates. In his research, one group of people picked a side of the argument and gave reasons why they support it. The other group was asked to explain step by step how their opinion would work, actually implementing it. Many people in the second group were not so sure about their approach anymore, and they did not feel as strongly about the argument when asked to explain it in detail.
When arguing with someone make sure to listen to their opinion and their strong arguments. Then ask them how everything they are debating will actually work. This will show them that you are interested in hearing their side and also being open minded to more views. Even if the person is wrong in the reasoning, it is good for them to understand that they are being inaccurate. While they start explaining themselves, they will be able to reach that conclusion. This psychological procedure is a good mind control technique, for all parties involved in the argument. Everyone is able to understand his or her fallacious reasoning or valuable judgments. After all, arguments are a matter of different opinions. We all perceive information differently and will come up with diverse contradicting conclusions. Why not understand the source of these thoughts and come up with better ways of solving issues?